Children of Narcissistic Parents

In this video we discuss The 16 Common Narcissistic Parenting Components and how to deal with them:
1. You tended to only do things that s/he wanted to do, regardless if you wanted to or not.
2. S/he was not present often and seemed to get gratification away from the family.
3. No matter what you did, you were never able to impress or please him/her.
4. How things looked or appeared were more important than your feelings.
5. You tended to have the greatest value when s/he could brag about your accomplishments or complain about your failures.
6. S/he tended to show that s/he cared through material gifts, as opposed to attention or words of encouragement and love.
7. Jealousy of your achievements, opportunities, or looks prompted criticism and ridicule.*
8. S/he tended to see him/herself as very important and influential and was entitled to the best, even the best children.
9. S/he tended to take advantage of and manipulate others when it suited him/her.
10. Others seemed to like being around him/her, and s/he sought out the spotlight, even if it meant demeaning his/her children.
11. S/he was highly sensitive to negative feedback or criticism, and s/he would kick people out of his/her life who provided it.
12. When angry, s/he showed rage and poor constraint, including anger that was verbal, physical, or both.
13. S/he would feel threatened when you expressed yourself in an appropriate manner.
14. S/he had fantasies of success and his/her own achievements that were highly ambitious; when they did not work out, it was someone else’s fault.
15. S/he was highly critical of others, and s/he was the one who knew the true fix for any given situation.
16. The relationship you have with him/her is more like friendship than parental.

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:

Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: https://www.drdfox.com/books

The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: https://goo.gl/LQEgy1

Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): https://goo.gl/BLRkFy

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: https://goo.gl/sZYhym

The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: https://goo.gl/ZAVe9v

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0:00 Introduction
0:22 What happens to these kids? How do they grow up and develop?
1:18 You tend to only do things they want to do, regardless if you want to or not
2:07 Sense of being a burden
2:15 No matter what you do, you're never able to impress or please them
3:30 You tend to have the greatest value when they can brag about your accomplishments or complain about your failures
6:03 Jealous of your achievements, opportunities or looks
8:53 They tend to take advantage of and manipulate others when it suits them
9:22 Fear - Shame -Doubt -Emptiness -Abandonment
10:32 They are highly sensitive to negative feedback or criticism, and they would kick people out of their life who provided it
13:26 They would feel threatened when you expressed yourself in an appropiate manner, even when you use 'I statements
15:42 They are highly critical of others and they are the only ones who know the true fix for any given situation
16:31 Believe the propaganda
18:26 Narcissism does not breed narcissism
21:18 Abandonment -Emptiness
22:37 They have to accept your drive to do what you want to do